Chaimy

nedhepburn: Kanye WestNew Slaves He’s never boring.

Sat, 18 May 2013 00:41:04 -0400

nedhepburn:

Kanye West
New Slaves

He’s never boring.

nedhepburn: Pharrell Williams, Daft Punk, Kanye West.

Thu, 09 May 2013 19:37:19 -0400

nedhepburn:

Pharrell Williams, Daft Punk, Kanye West.

Me at a bar.

Wed, 08 May 2013 18:44:34 -0400

Me at a bar.

fuckyeahsharks: NEVER SAW IT COMING

Tue, 07 May 2013 21:39:49 -0400

fuckyeahsharks:

NEVER SAW IT COMING

nedhepburn: Miley Cyrus for V Magazine. This is an incredible...

Thu, 02 May 2013 02:25:01 -0400

nedhepburn:

Miley Cyrus for V Magazine.

This is an incredible interview. As someone who used to be on the Disney channel, I could tell there was something badass about her. I’m actually intrigued to hear her new music.

nedhepburn: Yes. Yes they are. Why is this even a question? The...

Fri, 26 Apr 2013 23:04:40 -0400

nedhepburn:

Yes. Yes they are. Why is this even a question? The company that makes Gleevec pulled in $4.7b in profit in 2012 alone.

Fuck the free market healthcare system.

I understood about half of this, but I liked it.

Mon, 22 Apr 2013 22:08:59 -0400

I understood about half of this, but I liked it.

flower exposed to radiation from Fukushima nuclear facility...

Sat, 20 Apr 2013 11:15:50 -0400

flower exposed to radiation from Fukushima nuclear facility Japan

nedhepburn: Jennifer Lawrence with a cat by a pool, obviously.

Thu, 04 Apr 2013 12:00:39 -0400

nedhepburn:

Jennifer Lawrence with a cat by a pool, obviously.

Photo

Sun, 10 Mar 2013 23:01:23 -0400

meninblazers: Brilliant this. From Joey Barton - reminding...

Thu, 28 Feb 2013 00:40:53 -0500

meninblazers:

Brilliant this. From Joey Barton - reminding Zlatan he has a big nose.

via GFOP @gp543

I love Joey Barton.

nedhepburn: What would Calvin & Hobbes look like in the...

Fri, 22 Feb 2013 15:55:14 -0500

nedhepburn:

What would Calvin & Hobbes look like in the real world?

So fucking perfect.

roboshark: I MUST HAVE IT Want? No. NEED!

Mon, 18 Feb 2013 18:18:50 -0500

roboshark:

I MUST HAVE IT

Want? No. NEED!

At a hipster place tonight...

Sat, 09 Feb 2013 01:49:00 -0500

… How do I ironically tell girls I want them to sit on my face?

Photo

Sun, 03 Feb 2013 01:59:10 -0500

10 Dumbest Things Fox Said About Climate Change In 2012

Wed, 02 Jan 2013 17:37:00 -0500

10 Dumbest Things Fox Said About Climate Change In 2012:

bringtheruckuss:

My personal favorite:

Fox “Expert”: Carbon Dioxide “Literally Cannot Cause Global Warming.”

Reflection

Sun, 16 Dec 2012 08:47:28 -0500

After the last long post I just completed, I actually looked at my blog. Some of it seems kind of misogynist. Is there a line between appreciating and objectifying women? Am I on the wrong side of it? If so, how much? Feeling very self-conscious right now.

This is a Bad Idea

Sun, 16 Dec 2012 08:37:13 -0500

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Drkh0YLF8rI#t=0m10s

This is a bad idea spurred on by preceding bad ideas. I couldn’t sleep so I watched ‘Memento’ for the 1st time. I started browsing Twitter. I’d been seeing the word ‘misandry’ occasionally and did not know what it meant. Looked it up. I always figured there was a mirror (equivalent? I don’t know the right word) of misogyny, but never knew what it was. I searched it on Tumblr and scrolled down for a while. Even now, spell check says it’s not a word, but the only suggestion is ‘Melisandra,’ which is a name or proper noun for something I’ve never heard of.

I ended a sentence, a paragraph, with a preposition. I to leave for work in about 6 hours. I don’t know how much longer I’ll be writing. I don’t know how much I’m going to share.

This is a bad idea because I’m either wasting my time or it will be seen by anybody and I really have no clue what I’m talking about. Also, I’m a mediocre writer at best. Do I need the ‘really’ in ‘I really have no clue?’ I don’t know if that strengthens or weakens my conveyance of how in over my head I am.

Anyway, misandry. I’m a straight white American male. Born with a clear advantage. Although my father (if I’m delving into him later, this post will be very long) and his side of the family spent 2 generations in Cuba, I don’t look or am considered Hispanic. 100% white Jew with a Cuban layover, really. The ones who fled Cuba in their 30s and 20s are pretty Cuban, though. I consider myself a Jewtheist. Inseparably culturally Jewish, but I haven’t been to Temple in years and am certainly no fan of organized religion.

What I mean to say is I have no idea what it’s like to be any woman in any society at any time. I can tell you I’d much rather be a woman here in America than in Saudi Arabia, but I don’t know the true feelings of any woman anywhere. I know it’s been a stacked deck from the start, but it feels and looks like it’s getting better. I know it’s not perfect. I have no idea if it should be considered ‘good.’ But looking at then and now, it’s better in most places.

I just accidentally hit the backspace key while clicked out of the text box. Lost way more than half of this. It’s been an hour. I’m going to try and put back what I had.

My sister graduates college in 18 months. My mother finally has a new relationship, but she’ll likely be moving far away. My sister is set to make more money than I or my mother is currently making upon graduation. She’s going to be an accountant. She’s afraid of my mother abandoning her. My mother is afraid of abandoning her children, period. My sister is the youngest at 22 years old. My father committed suicide a year and a half ago. What little relationship he had with any of us for the past few years was very bad. How much of their worry is because they are women? Is any of it? I think I have empathy, but I’ll never know.

I’ll never know. Too much of my life, thoughts, and references are filtered through pop culture. What comes to mind is this South Park episode. http://www.southparkstudios.com/full-episodes/s11e01-with-apologies-to-jesse-jackson

I’ll never know what it’s like to be a woman anywhere. I don’t know what it’s like to be black. Or gay. Or Catholic. Or Muslim. Or Christian. Or anything I’m not.

I do know that I and the people I choose to associate with try and treat everyone well. But nobody can know the experiences and thoughts of somebody else, especially a stranger.

Back to misandry. I’ll never know or feel the pressures any society puts on women. I’ve never had an uncomfortable experience because I felt threatened because I was a man. The 2nd to last time I saw my father alive, I wanted to fight him. I don’t know how a woman would, could, or can react after any amount of domestic distress, be it physical or emotional.

I can’t tell you the last time I read a new book. I read plenty on the internet. I try and stay informed. I like the availability of facts. There’s a plethora of well thought out opinions on all aspects of culture. Movies, music, art, writing. Blogs about blogs about those things. But I want the information first. It boggles my mind how hard it is for the society I see to make progress given the availability of facts.

I think that’s why this is so hard. So much of it is personal experience. I misread my best friends plenty. Serendipity seems more rare today. I like to think we all try our best to meet new people with an open mind.

A sample of two scenarios I’ve been in or close witness to on multiple occasions in multiple settings:

1) Complimenting a woman on her appearance/outfit/clothing only to be rebuffed with prejudice.

2) A woman telling a man he should have gone to talk to a women who has recently left because she saw him looking at her but was waiting for him to come say something.

I’ve seen both scenarios involve Ghostbusters shirts.

I’ve never been cat-called on the street. The thought of that still happening baffles me. I’ve never been in an awkward sexual situation with a superior at work. I’ve never been groped or harassed. I’ve never had anyone follow me down a street.

My friend was almost raped. A guy dragged her into an alley. It’s a horrifying story. She fought him off and got away. He found her on Facebook. Talking with her those weeks is the most scared I’ve heard any of my friends. I didn’t have any answers. I live to help those I care about. Helplessness is an awful feeling.

She didn’t want to go to the trial. I’m pretty sure she did. I’m pretty sure he went to jail. I don’t want to call her and ask about it. Why? For some blog post? That may go unread? I don’t want to have to ask her about it. Because that means someone else I care about is in a dire situation. My blood just began to boil.

I know the ‘bro-culture’ all too well. It’s unavoidable be it consuming media or just out in society person to person. Despite my affinity for sports, gambling, and action movies, I don’t like it. Fuck macho bullshit. But demonizing anybody doesn’t work. I’ve found, “Bro, that’s not cool,” followed by a short discussion can go a long way.

Misandry. I don’t know anything about it. I’m pretty sure some of the usage I saw on Twitter and Tumblr was sarcastic. Is that empowering? I don’t know. I want everyone to feel personally empowered. My mom made fun of me for watching the US Women’s Soccer team. Some guys mocked me for watching the WNBA playoffs. I’m excited about Hillary in 2016.

I don’t want to be judged solely or primarily on my looks or what other people’s expectations of those looks are. I want to be paid fairly and have opportunities for advancement. I want comprehensive affordable health care. I want to share good times with good friends. I want a partner to also share in those good times with those good friends. I want my children to have it better than I did. Universal values.

I will say something that will offend someone in an interpersonal exchange. I’ve done it plenty before and I’ll do it again. I don’t ever mean to, but it happens. One tries to be funny and clever and it’s gone too far, the words got tangled, and someone I didn’t see is standing behind me.

I try and learn. I battled a very bad depression that had be drop out of college for two and a half years. I’m happy where I am right now. Keep trying to live my values and be a better person. That’s all one can do.

PS, I’m awful at Tumblr and am not sure how to see any messages or replies. I’m much better at Twitter. @Chaimy4Life

I have to leave for work in 3 and a half hours.

lolz

Tue, 11 Dec 2012 01:19:25 -0500

lolz

NEED

Mon, 10 Dec 2012 23:13:33 -0500

NEED